Are you Happy?

At what stage in life does one feels happiest and fulfilled?

Or is there no age or time when this happens?

When I look back at my life and try to remember when and if I have ever reached this stage of Nirvana? Never is the word which comes to the mind.

When I was a teenager I had the usual angsts. I was fat, I had acne, life was too restrictive and my friends were the lucky ones. They looked good, dressed well and had boys drooling after them,where as I was too busy being critical of my plain looks and and lack of any talents. Whereas everyone else around me had those in bucketfuls or so I thought.

So that was not happy then.

In my twenties when I moved to another continent, I had other problems. I wanted to be accepted, liked and do well in my career, and of course have an adoring husband,a beautiful house,no money worries and gorgeous children. All of this was being hampered by doing a nursing course in a London teaching hospital,where hours were gruelling, work hard,patients demanding and no time to do anything else.

So let us move on the late twenties then.

By now I had acquired a husband, finished my training and had a home,and of course my first baby. That was a period I can recall with great affection. I loved motherhood,well the lack of sleep not withstanding.We never had enough money for any luxuries, but I did not want much, I think I was happy.

Fast forward to middle age. WIth the usual stresses of raising a family I think  I was still in a happy mode. Watching my children grow and having ambitions for them and helping them achieve them seemed the aim of my life and I was reasonably content .

Now that everything is over and done with,I have discovered gardening, but am at times lonely,despite having a lot of public service commitments, a good standard of life and some great girl friends. Am also realising that life is too short,and am not going to remain at this standard of physical health and activity for too long.

So that is certainly not all happiness then! Or the pursuit of happiness futile? We humans can never be totally happy and content?

So at what stage(if any), do we feel content, totally happy and pleased as punch with our life so far, and the one to come?

Any ideas or experiences??

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